Sometimes in life we talk about our circumstances in a way that causes the negative to overshadow the positive…or we try to mask the negative by overplaying the positive. Too often, we use the word “but” to describe situations. I could say:
+ Working for myself provides me with a lot of freedom and fulfillment, but it’s really hard and makes me face every doubt and limiting belief I ever had.
+ I’m so excited to have a baby, but I’m nervous about how my body will change.
When framed with “but,” the negative essentially negates the first part of the sentence.
Instead of using “but,” we can replace it with the word “and”.
+ Working for myself provides me with a lot of freedom and fulfillment, and it’s really hard and makes me face every doubt and limiting belief I ever had.
+ I’m so excited to have a baby, and I’m nervous about how my body will change.
This is what the concept of Santosha means. It allows all the circumstances of our lives – whether good, bad, or inbetween – to exist together without negating one another. Practicing santosha can allow us to live a more genuine life by allowing us to experience our full range of emotions. It’s okay to feel conflicting things about something. One doesn’t have to overshadow the other – they can exist simultaneously and both be valid.
I love this concept because I feel like there are so many parts of my personality that seem to contradict one another.
I love fashion and style and I have a passion for spirituality and personal development.
I love a night out and hanging with a group of friends and I love staying at home relaxing with Seth.
I love reading books on personal growth and spirituality and I love trashy reality tv.
I can be very practical and analytical and I can be very creative and led by my intuition.
Santosha allows us to experience it all and reminds us that all of our emotions, experiences, and feelings are valid, even if they don’t seem to make sense together.
I learned about this concept from Jess Lively during our collaboration to create The Lively Collection for Style + Spirit. To read her describe the concept, you can head over here. You can also hear her talk to Brene Brown about santosha here. To get your own santosha t-shirt, hop over here.